When you decide to change your life and adopt the Four Accords, you are questioning the beliefs you have learned and the habits you have practiced since childhood. It won`t happen overnight, but include these chords in your thoughts and be patient. Win the war on the beliefs in your head. Practice these four chords and watch your life change. I have not read this book and I do not intend to do so. I saw these 4 chords on the wall in a yoga teacher`s house and I must have laughed. These tenants are what Saniel Bonder, the founder of Waking Down In Mutality, would call hypermasculine ideas to improve us. They can improve our lives for a while, but like all self-improvement projects, they involve that we need to be fixed and eventually lead to more self-judgment. Although there is an important place for the action component in life (male power), it is necessary to balance it with the softer outfit and accept the maternal qualities of the deep feminine.
Truly loving ourselves for and with all our human weaknesses is the key to not judging ourselves and others, and a surprising firmness. This can pave the way for a deeper understanding, which involves knowing ourselves as an unlimited guessing presence. Here`s an improvised list of my 4 chords: (1) Give yourself a break – again and again If your beliefs create deep happiness in you, then I say: Keep them. When they cause excitement, when the beliefs of others are different, the awareness of them can give you the choice of what you believe and what you let go. So many of our beliefs, concepts, chords were instilled in us as “truth” when we were young, and we accepted them literally and completely. The beginning of the Four Accords is about how we were domesticated by our caregivers in a “dream” of life. The only dream they could give us was the one they were living, which they mainly got from THEIR parents, etc. In an article for ABC News, Mick Mulroy, former Assistant Secretary of Defense for the Middle East under Secretary Jim Mattis and also a retired U.S. Marine, argued that Stoicism should serve as a philosophy for the U.S.
military because it protects control from anger and fear, as well as the stoic concept of universal brotherhood. [38] We are different from John. What they see as history, I see as a lie, untruths, a great mission. This story is not about bringing people closer to the truth, on the contrary, it goes in the opposite direction. To say that something is both false, hypocritical and simplistic, you could actually take it as a criticism. That should be the case. Did you miss that part? Did Ruiz pay you to print this article “Accept the 4 agreements”? curious. Do you like it because it recalls and reinforces what you have already learned from humanistic psychology? Is there some kind of confirmation error that makes you want to help Ruiz sell this thing, or did he really pay you to publish it? It is quite hypocritical to say “be impeccable with your word” on the one hand and to tell all these “stories” on the other hand to force or support your message. I also found it strange to judge a book by the behavior of a person who claims to have read it and by the elderly people who are the ancestors of the author of the book. For this reason, I did not respond to Cccc`s comment. If the commentator had explained why he believes the four agreements cause people to behave recklessly and selfishly, I might have gotten an answer. As it stands, I maintain the idea that – Toltec or not – these principles are a healthy lifestyle and are consistent with best practices supported by modern psychology: Don Miguel Ruiz is a Mexican author of Toltec spiritualist texts.
His teachings are based on the ancient Toltec wisdom of attaining happiness. His most famous book, The Four Agreements, advocates the personal freedom of beliefs and agreements we have made with ourselves, and how these limitations have created in our lives. I like what you say. If you were to write a book about your spontaneous agreements, I would read it. The fourth agreement allows readers to get a better overview of the progress made in achieving their life goals. This agreement includes the integration of the first three chords into everyday life and also the exhaustion of one`s own potential. [8] It is a question of doing one`s best individually, which is different from the different situations and circumstances that the individual may encounter. Ruiz believes that if you avoid self-judgment and do your best in every given moment, you will be able to avoid remorse. [10] By incorporating the first three chords and giving the best of himself in all facets of life, the individual will be able to live a life without grief or self-irony. [10] If I have to name four betrayals that I usually make to myself, will they be? The idea is that over time, the effects of other people`s opinions have become a very powerful force in the habits we have created in our lives. During this process, we made “agreements” in our minds about who and what we should be. Over time, we have learned to live our lives on the basis of these agreements.
Therefore, it turns out that the decisions we make now are determined by the opinions of other people in the past and not by those we would have chosen alone. Don Miguel Ruiz, in his book, gives us four principles that we can practice to break the boundaries created by others so that we can build a happier and more successful life for ourselves. We have to break a lot of old chords and change a lot of domesticated beliefs to really keep a space for someone`s hurt or anger against us without judging, withdrawing, defending, accusing, intellectualizing, you share their dream. We can use the fourth agreement, Do your best, to encourage us to make a positive effort. But this agreement also recognizes that “our best” varies from moment to moment, depending on our circumstances and state of mind. Acknowledging this fact leads to the realization that everything we are doing right now is our best, and this awareness can prevent us from castigating ourselves if we fail to live up to an inappropriate standard of perfection. At the end of the day, I think it`s important to know if your own agreements lead to the consequences you`d like to see. As for perfection, this word certainly has the connotation of perfectionism, and if you take it that way, you would indeed be driving yourself crazy. (By the way, perfection and other chords are agreements you make with yourself, not demands that ruiz makes of you.) On the other hand, if you set a goal to be impeccable with your word and strive to be as honest and friendly as possible with your words, without waiting for perfection from yourself or fighting if you fail, this agreement with yourself could increase your well-being. One of the most important wisdom teachings of the Toltec tradition is that we all dream – dream of a unique vision and experience of the universe. It`s at the beginning of the “Four Chords” and in my experience, a lot of people slip through that part and go to the chords. If we have made relationship agreements (regardless of the relationship), this sharing is for informational purposes in the name of intimacy and not a complaint or a request to fix something to protect me from the emotional reactions I create myself.
IMPRESSIVE. It is a vulnerable intimacy and can go anywhere (no attachment to the result). Where it will GO is towards more truth, especially if the person who hears this sharing can enter YOUR emotional body and understand what is happening in response to the sharing, and then be able to share YOUR emotional truth at that time. How do we know the correct interpretation of Ruiz`s reference to John 1:1-5? We could break one of his four agreements and guess his intention. Or, if you are really interested in the truth, you can ask him. Agreeing with ourselves, not taking things personally (#2) gives us the opportunity to look inward and find and change the old agreements and beliefs – mostly lies from our childhood domestication – that captivate us emotionally and make us react. The author of the article accurately describes people`s “dream” that distorts what people say or do…